The Leaders School of The Cursillo Movement
Of The Savannah Diocese
Savannah, Georgia

The Role of Leaders During the 3-Day Cursillo

References:

FI               Fundamental Ideas of the Cursillo Movement

LM             Leaders Manual

3-Day        3-Day Manual -- pages 1-9

Introduction

Good morning.  Let us pray;

LEADERS' PRAYER

Lord, grant that we may understand the necessity for depth in our movement, rather than surface glory.  Convince us of the truth that colorful programs do not constitute success.

My God, give us a spirit of self sacrifice so that we may offer everything for Your cause: our time, our abilities, our health and even our lives if necessary.  Instill in us courage in our initiatives, good judgment in our choice of the right means, and that determination which in spite of failures assures victory

Move away from us the tiny rivalries, sensitivities, discourtesies, pride, everything which distracts from You, everything which divides or discourages.

Help us to maintain at a high level a meaningful supernatural and mutual charity among ourselves, so that each one will seek by preference the most humble tasks and will rejoice at the good performed by others, so that all our spirits united in a common purpose will have one single spirit, Yours Jesus, and that this spirit may let us see Your attractive goodness marked in all our faces, Your warm accents in all our words, and in our lives something superior to the world, something that proclaims Your Living Presence among us.  Amen.

Our Lady of Guadelupe, Patron of the Americas, Pray for us.

St.  Paul, Patron of Cursillo, Pray for us.

Purpose

This presentation is intended to help understand the role of a Table Auxiliary.  In actuality, most of this presentation is going to be about the entire team.  The Table Auxiliary is responsible – like the rest of the team, for being the living witness of Christ to the candidates.

You see, for purposes of the 3-Day Cursillo, the entire team really has the same purpose.

Frequently, each Cursillo table family has one or two Table Auxiliaries assigned to share the experience of the talk room activities with the candidates.

THE ROLE OF CURSILLO LEADERS LM 39

I want to begin this presentation by defining the role of a leader.  All who attend a Cursillo Weekend become cursillistas.  All who become cursillistas should strive to be Christian leaders within their environments (home, work, social, political, etc); however, not all cursillistas will choose, or are called, to become Cursillo Leaders.  The worst enemies of a movement are those who become its promoters without understanding it.

Leaders are total leaders.  Leadership entails more than just being on teams for weekends.  Leaders are those who are involved in the whole work of the Movement ‑ the Precursillo, the 3‑Day Cursillo, as well as the Postcursillo.  Involved means making things happen.  This is done primarily through personal contact with:

1.      persons in the Precursillo

2.      participants on the Weekend

3.      cursillistas in their Fourth Day.

Personal contact is more than having a chat.  It involves listening to determine where others are, and providing them a truth.  This truth is reinforced by the sharing of the leader's own experience to make the truth concrete.

The leaders' role is to give a witness that is exemplary in terms of living in grace and using the Cursillo method.

DURING THE WEEKEND LM 41

It is only logical that the Leaders should be present on a Weekend made by a number of candidates they have prepared.  In this way, the same leaders who have selected and prepared the candidates continue the conversion process.  The presentations, which are given on the Weekend, should reflect the type of progressive conversion and environmental evangelization to which the participants can relate and which they can imitate.  Again, the leaders' role is primarily one of personal contact with their group of participants on the Weekend with the plan of continuing the process afterward in the Postcursillo.

IN THE POSTCURSILLO LM 41

One of the primary functions of the leaders in the Postcursillo is personal contact with the cursillistas in the Ultreya and especially maintaining contact with those who are not regular participants.

The leaders should help new cursillistas to find friends with whom they can become a permanent group.  Leaders create an atmosphere whose sole purpose is to foster the sharing of Christian life with others. 

THE TECHNIQUE OF PERSONAL CONTACT FOR CURSILLO LEADERS LM 43

The person‑to ‑person proclamation of the Gospel, is important.  The Lord often used it (for example, with Nicodemus, Zacchaeus, the Samaritan woman and Simon the Pharisee), and so did the Apostles.  In the long run, is there any better way of handing on the Gospel than by transmitting to another person your personal experience of faith?

If religious experience is personal, we all need individual help: thus one of the main functions common to the whole Cursillo Weekend team is their openness to personal dialogue and sharing with the cursillistas.

In such dialogues, we are trying to construct, build up, and communicate the effective and valid criteria for a Christian structuring of the person's whole life.  This work will extend far beyond the three days of the Cursillo Weekend.

This personal dialogue and sharing of the leaders with the cursillistas must be done on the basis of friendship and sincerity through personal contact.  Leaders must be willing to open themselves up as a friend without trying, diplomatically or craftily, to probe the spiritual condition of the cursillista.

Only sincere friendship will offer ways for effective openness and dialogue.  The technique uses opportunity, gentleness and tact, and is carried out in an apostolic spirit, The leaders make friends with all, so that each one will become a friend of the Lord.  It is a well‑known fact that who says something, and how it is said is more important than what is being said.

The Cursillo Weekend team members – and especially the Table Auxiliaries, should spend all of their free time in personal contact.  Weekend schedules allow sufficient time for this process.  There are three stages, or moments, of effective apostolic personal contact:

1.      to know

2.      to evaluate

3.      to direct

The technique of personal contact follows the normal development of a Cursillo.  This is true for the group as a whole as well as for the individuals in the group.

While leaders in their personal contact may discover moral or other problems, this is not their purpose, and a Spiritual Director should best deal with these issues.  The purpose of personal contact is to help deepen the personal understanding and commitment to "Christian criteria." These basic principles, which if well understood and grasped, can direct and orient a person's whole life and serve as the foundation for the solution of all present or future difficulties.

PART ONE: "SOUNDING" (DISCERNING) LM 45

The first two elements of the personal contact technique‑to know and to evaluate‑are commonly referred to in the Spanish Cursillo literature as 'sounding" (as in 'to sound out a person's opinion about something" or 'to take some soundings to determine the lay of the land").  Sounding may take time, but eventually the leader will learn what is important for each candidate and be able to form an opinion.  It is a technique that should be used, not only on the Cursillo Weekend, but also in the Precursillo and Postcursillo.

The process of personal contact is taught during the 3‑day Cursillo through the experience of the one who receives.  In this way the candidates are able to use the process in their environments afterwards.  To make a friend, be a friend and introduce your friend to Christ is the basis of the personal contact work done by the individual team members on the Weekend.  Later on, that personal contact is carried on and intensified in the Ultreyas.

Because personal contact is so much a part of the Weekend technique, much time needs to be allotted to it in the schedule under the designation "free time." It is not the objective of the Movement to fill the weekend with activities.  The objective is to provide as much quiet time and free time as possible.  It is within these times and meal times that the personal contact process takes place.

"To sound is to inquire with caution, sounding the personality and circumstances to ascertain:

·         Whether a person's soul is aching.

·         That person's present attitude,

·         The circumstance in which that person's life goes on.

·         To get to know the cursillista.

·         To understand the cursillista.

·         The ability to convey the truth to the cursillista effectively.

This "sounding" should be done prudently, with caution, respecting and loving the other person.  If candidates feel themselves being the victims of questioning and not sharers in friendship, they will shut themselves off.  Let me repeat that:  If candidates feel themselves being the victims of questioning and not sharers in friendship, they will shut themselves off.  They will let us see only what they want us to know.  Caution demands from us the realization that we are taking care of Gods interests.  It should also be done tactfully, without too much insistence, being careful to control the temptation of simple curiosity.  From available information and from "normal idea of conversation it is possible to have an exact enough a person.  This 'sounding" must take place at appropriate times, making use of normal occasions of conversation and never at times that may annoy the person.

PART TWO: "MOVING THEM" (ENLIGHTENING) LM 46

The second part of personal contact technique is originally known in the literature as "stabbing." Today, we prefer to use the term 'prodding.' This may be expressed better as seeking to direct, to enlighten, to convict, or to move.

"To stab is to strike with a sword point, but for us it is hurling the Truth (or truths) sharply so that it sticks...  It will be our mission to take the individuals from where they are to where they ought to be.  The stabbing should be specific, sharp enough to stick.  It must be the decisive arrow at the heart of the problem.  On stabbing one must aim high, implant truths in their aspirations, in their potentialities, always bearing in mind that it is more effective to point out potentials than to demand responsibilities.  The stabbing must penetrate them, stir up their passivity, pick at their conscience.”

Because this is obviously a delicate work in which real damage can be done, the founders are concerned that individuals do not undertake this kind of personal contact unless they are mature Christians who are being led by God and have a sense of the sacredness of the contact.  Obviously no one should engage in this work without studying it in the School of Leaders and being experienced in it.  In addition, it is important that these personal conversations end up before the Lord for His clarification and confirmation through prayer and meditation.  Talk to God about man, before talking to man about God.  And -- Talk to God about man, after talking to man about God.

SUMMARY LM 48

In a way, personal contact technique is simply glorified common sense.  It makes explicit, in an ordered way, what goes on in successful and effective apostolic personal contact.  There are people to whom successful apostolic contact comes "naturally." Even so, there is 'no one (even one who is "naturally effective") who does not have some area of blindness or weakness.  Everyone can improve in some way, by engaging in dialogue with other experienced apostles who are articulating the experiences of the founders of the Movement.  Everyone can benefit by studying and reflecting on the wisdom contained in this technique.

Everyone should strive to improve the effectiveness of their contact with others by studying prayerfully in community (School of Leaders) and, with the help of other Christians and Christ, learn the elements of effective personal contact.

THE 3‑DAY CURSILLO

The development of the 3‑day Cursillo, like the rest of the Movement, didn't happen by chance.  Over a period of years, learning through a process of trial and error, the group of young men in Majorca who developed it brought to the work their own experience of God and life."

The Cursillo Weekend is a method to make possible the true living out of a Christian's baptismal commitment.  It offers a way to facilitate an encounter with the fundamentals of Christian living."' When the Cursillo Weekend was first developed, neither all the formulas nor an exact expression of its purpose were set down, but its content, structure and technique already supported that purpose.

Making a Weekend is a marvelous grace, which takes individuals as they are, with all their problems, and enables them to cooperate with God.  It helps move them to conversion, enabling them to join their lives more fully to God and to constantly move toward holiness in communion with their brothers and sisters.

It can be said that a Cursillo Weekend is "the realistically joyful communication of being Christian." Such joyful communication entails proclamation of a doctrine, participation in Christian community living and the human element or situations in which these take place.  Here, then, are the general principles, which must be kept in mind regarding the 3‑Day Weekend.

GENERAL PRINCIPLES: WORD AND TESTIMONY LM 92

"Go into the whole world and proclaim the good news to all creation" (Mk.  16:15).  This is the Lord's commandment.  We are not attempting to demonstrate the power of the Word here, or to stress the need for proclaiming it.  But it should be delivered in such a way as to elicit a personal response.  The Cursillo tries to illuminate all of life with the light of the whole Gospel.

To be effective, the Gospel should be proclaimed in the style that Christ exemplified.  The Word has to be a living experience since Christ is the Word made flesh.  The Weekends follow this style, basing the search for conversion on living experience as well as personal and community witness of living what is being proclaimed.  The task has to be entrusted to persons who are not just technicians, but who have truly responded to the call of the Lord Jesus: persons who are real proof of what they proclaim.

This is, and always has been, fundamental.  "My message and my preaching had none of the persuasive force of 'wise' argumentation, but the convincing power of the Spirit.  As a consequence, your faith rests not on the wisdom of men but on the power of God" (1 Cor.2: 4‑5).

The Weekend could well be compared to a new birth, a rebirth in Christ.  It is also a living communication with a community of faith, which is made present through the communal witness of the leaders.

TEACHING TECHNIQUES OF THE WEEKEND LM 92

The teaching techniques of the Weekend are to help create a climate which will facilitate an encounter with the Lord.  These techniques help to remove barriers and obstacles that would prevent the message from reaching the candidate's, mind and heart.  They try to break the bonds which enslave and prevent people from making free and conscious decisions.

 

Technique during the Weekend is simply preparing the way of the Lord.  The order in which doctrines are presented is considered the main aspect of our teaching method.  Technique is the systematic arrangement of certain truths to achieve a specific purpose.

 

Among the basic elements of the Weekend technique, we should emphasize the leader's personal contact with the candidates.  Only when we know the persons can we know what to say and how to say it.

 

Sincerity, realism and courage are necessary in implementing the Weekend technique.  The team must be flexible enough to adjust quickly at each moment of the Weekend.  Technique must be used rationally; each Weekend is different.  This requires controlling technique to avoid being controlled by it.

 

As a general principle, we might say that technique boils down to knowledge and awareness of what should be done on the Weekend and of what ordinarily happens when we responsibly take care of the details within our control.  This great care is taken so that the candidates may experience a joyous encounter with Christ, presupposing the action of grace and the individual's free will.  It is important to remember that although methodology and technique are essential during the Weekend, we must avoid becoming mere "technicians" and making the technical means into ends themselves.

 

PERSONAL FREEDOM LM 93

 

Respect for individual liberty has always been one of the concerns during the Weekend.  At the same time, respect for the candidates' freedom should not prevent us from presenting them with a clear vision of what the Christian life can and should be.  In other words, for one to choose not to be Christian, he or she must also be able to choose to be Christian.

During the Weekend, we should avoid and protect against any form of manipulation.  Even the most insignificant details should reflect the normal respect we show others in our daily lives.  We must not invent tricks in order to coerce.  "Man must not become the object of coercion on the part of private persons or on the part of social groups or any human Power; therefore, in religious matters, nobody must be forced to act against his own conscience."  "The religious experience in its essence, in its deep and firm reality, is always a personal event.  And, as such, it is free and belongs to whomever is experiencing it.'

Proclamation of the Gospel, together with the living experience which personifies it, is sufficient to bring about change in candidates without resorting to artificial means or psychological pressure.  Acceptance of this fact is a testimony of belief in the power of the Holy Spirit, the Gospel, Grace, and the living experiences of those who have been given the responsibility to teach.

The effectiveness of the Weekend is dependent more on its content than on its method, on the Christianity being preached, lived and joyfully communicated.  We respect the freedom of the candidate by not resorting to artificial means or psychological pressure.  Likewise, we cannot deny the same freedom to those acting as leaders during a Weekend.  No one should mistake the enthusiastic proclamation of the Christian message to be psychological pressure or denial of liberty.

EUCHARIST AND CURSILLO LM 95

The sharing of what is fundamental for being a Christian is supported in common Eucharistic living.  That is why the Eucharistic community is fostered as a central theme of the Weekend.

The people of God are led and invisibly supported by the Spirit of Christ, but they should also form a true, visible family.  It has to bring to life what was experienced in the early Christian community when all were one in mind and heart.  Within the Catholic community, small communities gather around the Eucharistic table to experience unity and communicate this unity of love.

 

Visits to the Blessed Sacrament, within the framework of the Weekend, are of great spiritual and teaching value.  Being spontaneous and shared, they promote the common unity of all the participants.  Visits to the Blessed Sacrament bring hearts closer together, and encourage true friendship.  With these visits, praying, sharing and taking as its own one another's problems solidify the community.  Therefore.  in these visits we become aware not only of our closeness to Christ, but also of the community spirit blossoming in the three days.  The leaders in such groups leads most effectively by example.

PRAYER LM 98

We could apply to the Weekend the words of Pope Paul VI: 'The Church is a society of prayer.  This deeply religious characteristic of the Church is essential and providential.  What would the Church be without prayer? What would Christianity become if it did not teach humankind how they can and should enter in union with God? It would be a philanthropic Christianity or a purely temporal society"

Prayer is the principal, supernatural means of success during the Weekend.  The Christian community, or part of it, prays earnestly before and during the Weekend.  In the same way, the team coordinator, the leaders and the Spiritual Advisor pray, relying on prayer at every moment to resolve the problems and difficulties of the Weekend.

The team teaches the candidates how to pray by praying and, therefore, must be a praying community from the outset.  The group atmosphere removes any individualism from prayer and endows it with a sense of community

Little by little, as the Weekend progresses, it becomes a praying community During the Weekend we learn to pray, and we pray.  Perhaps at the beginning, the small prayer community is made up only of the team.  The witness of the team and the proclamation of the truth will expand that community until it includes all the participants.

During the Weekend we stress, even insist on, praying from the heart.  Individual, interior prayer will prevent rituals in our collective prayer.  Though we seek to acquaint cursillistas with the inexhaustible wealth of communal and liturgical prayer available to the Church, we understand that the value of strictly communal prayer can never substitute itself for the value of personal prayer proceeding from a pure and humble heart.

Cursillistas draw their inspiration to pray from Christ Himself.  He prayed, He taught us how to pray by praying; He insisted on the need for it; and He promised that our prayer(s) would be heard.  In contrast with the secular humanistic way of thinking, the leaders of the Weekend believe in prayer, in its power, and know that, "The Heavenly Father gives the Holy Spirit to those who ask Him" (Luke 1 1:13).

GROUPS LM 99

In order to facilitate a spirit of sharing, promote an attitude of community and open the doors of friendship, the candidates are divided into small groups for which team members are responsible.

In these groups, the candidates dialogue (reunion) on the message proclaimed in each talk and then summarize each talk.  This method provides in‑depth sharing of the Christian experience, so that the Weekend may help bring about a progressively mature conversion.

The groups help create an atmosphere in which the candidates can speak with openness.  They verbalize their concerns and exchange and share experiences with each other.

Normally on the first day the group is simply a working team; almost certainly by the end of the Weekend it will be a community of faith and love.

REUNIONS LM 100

Group Reunion is an effective way to stimulate people with a common interest to share views and to gain insights.  During the Weekend, time is given after each presentation for Group Reunion.  It is the role of the the Table Auxiliary to assist the Group Reunion leader (candidate selected for this role) and to give him or her some pointers to follow.  Among these are:

  1. One person should speak at a time;
  2. Everyone should have an opportunity to speak;
  3. Encourage the art of listening;
  4. Stick to the subject matter;
  5. Don't argue,
  6. Try to understand everyone's point of view;
  7. Do not allow yourself or anyone else in the group to be an expert or teacher,
  8. Finish at the designated time.

A good Table Auxiliary (leader) raises questions, keeps the discussion moving on track and relates the remarks of various participants to each other, to the talk and to previous discussions and talks.

The Group Reunion basic objectives are:

  1. To get each individual's point of view (this facilitates the personal contact work);
  2. To produce a summary of the talks (the role of the group secretary) for presentation at the Ultreya.

Once these objectives are reached, the group can disband for free time, allowing each participant to pray, meditate, be alone, socialize, receive spiritual direction, counseling or personal contact.

HETEROGENEITY LM 102

There has to be a certain amount of variety in social, work and ethnic backgrounds both within the team and among the cursillistas.  This blending is a logical consequence of the purpose of the Cursillo Movement.  This mixture allows us to share both our diversity and what we have in common as Christians.  It is something simple and at the same time dynamic.  We proclaim Christian brotherhood and human solidarity, and at the same time we are able to offer a tangible experience of what is proclaimed.

The chosen People of God are one, through one Lord, one faith, one baptism (Eph.  4:5).  As members they share a common dignity from their rebirth in Christ.  They have the same grace as sons and daughters of God and the same vocation to perfection.  They possess in common one salvation, one hope and one undivided charity.  There is in Christ and in the Church no inequality on the basis of race or nationality, social condition or sex, because, "There is neither Jew nor Greek; there is neither slave nor freeman; there is neither male nor female.  For you are all one in Jesus Christ" (Gal.  3:28).

The unity of persons from diverse backgrounds during the Weekend is an evident application of this Scripture.

THE POST CURSILLO LM 110

If the Weekend experience is valid, then it should open up the realistic possibility of continuing this encounter of self, Christ and one's brothers and sisters in an ongoing way This possibility is best demonstrated by the team, which presents the truths of the Cursillo and gave witness to them by means of their own lifestyle as a community

The team should reflect their life of holiness, formation and evangelization.  It should be obvious that they are Christian friends and have reached a stage of Christian community through their commitment to each other to grow in the Christian life and to share that life together.  If the team demonstrates this strength and love, it should cause the candidates to say to themselves, "I would like to do likewise." Such a witness should be motivation enough for them to leave the Cursillo Weekend eager to seek out a group of friends so they too can grow through participation in Christian community The team on the Weekend is not so much a team of speakers as it is a team of witnesses to what Group Reunion means in their own lives.

ROLE OF THE LEADER LM 144

Each person who experiences conversion is in need of special understanding and assistance.  The leaders, the Spiritual Advisor and the Christian community are called to help with the ongoing process and orientation.  The matter is serious because in a certain sense the Lord has put the success of another's spiritual development into the hands of human beings.  There is no standard procedure to follow because there is no such thing as a standardized human being, just as there is no standard way to rear a family or run a society or a Christian community.  Each person is unique.  Any process of relating must be individual and personal as we search for effective ways of helping each individual progress toward full Christian maturity.

In a way, all converts are kind of "prodigal," far from their Father's house, returning to reorganize their earlier lives or to start life anew.

CONVERSION FOLLOWING INTELLECTUAL REMOTENESS FROM GOD LM 146

1.  Loneliness, in the realm of thinking, is painful.  There is no need to try to prove this.  All have experienced it.  However, it helps to remember that Christ felt loneliness also.  Intellectual loneliness is particularly sharp.  Those who have previously felt quite confident about their insights may discover on the Cursillo Weekend that they were not very perceptive.  In fact, many of them may have been uprooted by the cutting edge of the Gospel, and this has left them feeling low.  They consider their current possessions as trinkets or reminders of an era in life that is no longer relevant.  They feel a kind of gnawing emptiness, and what has been received during the Weekend seems insufficient to ease their state of tension.

Role of the Leader: It is important to provide tense persons with good literature, material rich with Scripture rather than some kind of complicated psychological analysis or simplistic interpretation of the Scriptures.  What is needed is Christian interpretation of life, which must be discovered through the gospels.  The Spiritual Advisor and/or lay leaders have a very serious responsibility in this area.  They are relating to persons who, in a sense, are "starving" and only the Word of God will satisfy them.

2.  Stunned, Confused: The Gospel can be jarring, particularly when it strikes a person in the very depths of his/ her being.  The Gospel is always a step ahead of us and may be particularly difficult for one having just experienced the Weekend.

Role of the Leader: The Christian community should stay by the new convert to support, encourage and provide assurance that others understand what is being experienced.

3.  Internal Realignment: The newly converted person realizes the need for a restructuring of life and values, both human and divine.  Because psychologically it is difficult to organize ideas and also difficult to organize ways of making them realities, the newly converted person will be alert to successful human models that are all around.

Role of the Leader: All those in the supportive Christian community need to be living witnesses of the life style they profess.  The newly converted is critically analyzing what is seen.  This inquisitive and scrutinizing approach can be easily disappointed if the community has no spiritual depth.  All leaders need to be living models, remembering Paul's admonition: "Be imitators of me, as I am of Christ."

4.  Inner Conflict between Past and Present: If we could picture the mind of the newly converted, it might resemble a battlefield.  There is a continuous ebb and flow back and forth between value systems of previous years and the Gospel message, which has now been accepted.  Soon discussions begin with others about the situation.  When in the company of other Christians, the new convert may play the role of the devil's advocate, but when speaking with those not yet converted, he/she may enter into a heated and sincere defense of the Gospel.

Role of the Leader: The leaders or the Christian community need to know how to respond to this newly converted cursillista who sincerely wants to discuss but not quarrel.  If this person is blamed or misunderstood, he/she could easily turn inward and suffer very deeply The newly converted cursillista's situation may be much like that of an adolescent.

5.  Fear of Having Gone Overboard Emotionally: It is no secret that the heart is touched deeply during the Cursillo.  Shortly after the Weekend, the new cursillista may ponder this conversion, admitting that the message heard was convincing (actually it was grace), but may begin to wonder just how much the heart rather than the intellect has been the impelling factor.  This may lead to wondering whether the course chosen can be continued.

Role of the Leader: The Spiritual Advisor and leaders responsible must stay by the newly converted cursillista, and by their word and example give reason to hope.  At the same time, these leaders must help this person to appreciate that there will always be tension in life.

6.  Was the person manipulated? Feeling stripped of former ideas and ideals, the new convert begins to question whether or not he/she was manipulated or brainwashed during the Weekend.  In addition, if some acquaintances begin now harassing about this experience, doubts will increase.  Eventually, wonderment begins to set in: "Did I kid myself? Have they put one over on me?" If this state of mind prevails, it could result in sad consequences.

Role of the Leader: Sincerity and simple truth are usually well taken.  There is no reason why candidates should not know that every reasonable and legitimate means is used to bring each person to a fuller relationship with God.  This is common sense.  A person's encounter with God is a serious matter.  A person's freedom is also a serious matter.  Therefore every effort is made to eliminate anything that would serve as an obstacle to that possible encounter.  It is not only necessary to eliminate obstacles, but also to provide the most favorable setting possible in order for a person to meet the Lord.  The concern is not one of brainwashing but possibly of an overwhelming response caused by an encounter with Christ.  The team studies in order to expand its understanding of the human being, and then it makes use of basic teaching methods and insights gained through sociology, psychology and anthropology.

ROLE OF THE LEADER LM 152

A leader, a good Spiritual Advisor, a husband or wife, should attempt to deal with a person experiencing these conflicting emotions.  These leaders should be sure to be:

1.      Understanding: To comprehend is to accept this person as is.  Realize that this person is now in an internal battle stage and can fail.  In fact, since the person has not yet had time to build up sufficient virtuous support and reserve, failure is eminent.  This person has not had sufficient training or discipline to proceed along paths so narrow and demanding.  This troubled state of soul is pressing, and resolve is more or less weak.

2.      Encouraging: The newly converted cursillista needs continual encouragement and help in developing an optimistic outlook.  Optimism can be half of the battle, and once the halfway point has been reached, there is a likeliness to feel some degree of success.

3.      Brotherly and sisterly: If the leader and Spiritual Advisor want to be accepted as sisters and brothers, they need to eliminate anything that appears paternalistic, imposing or superior.  It is easier to receive criticism and praise from peers.  It is comforting to know that your sisters and brothers are at your side, especially when times are difficult.

During the Cursillo Weekends, the participants are continually moving from feelings of ineptness to waves of elation.  We must know how to deal with these emotions.

We need to help them understand that it isn't wise to make decisions when one is emotionally or spiritually "up" or "down." Decisions should be made when one is reasonably calm, spiritually and emotionally.  We need to understand psychological factors and not waste time by being indifferent to these realities.

The Functions of the Other Leaders FI 118

287      Whether or not they give talks, the main function of all the leaders of the Cursillo is to make friends with the cursillistas, in order to make them friends of Christ.  Basically they do this by;

·         being constantly at their service;

·         showing tactful interest in their problems;

·         helping them through any doubts or anxieties they may have;

·         accompanying them along the way;

·         being living witnesses of the presence of the Lord; and

·         bringing them before the Lord in trustful prayer.

288      And so the Cursillo leader must

·         accept in all simplicity the trust that the Church has placed in them, and commit themselves to being transparent signs of the truth they are proclaiming;

·         know it is their responsibility to search long and hard for the best ways and the right words to get at the root of whatever problems each cursillista may be experiencing;

·         are conscious of having been chosen to be agents of change, in order to hasten the hour of the Lord for each cursillista, with due respect for the freedom of each;

·         are willing to let themselves be possessed and energized by the Word that they must in some way proclaim;

·         find their strength in frequent visits to the Blessed Sacrament, where prayer makes itself the weakness of God;

·         rely on the help of the Spirit; and

·         understand that their whole role can be reduced to one word: service.

294      Special care must be made to avoid revealing anything a cursillista has said in confidence.  The leaders must never consider themselves qualified to be judges or directors of anyone's conscience; they are only instruments and witnesses of the marvels being worked by the power of the Spirit.

5.  Respect for Freedom FI 122

296      Finally, as Leaders, we must have respect for freedom.  Freedom should be understood in the context of what Pope Paul VI wrote in his exhortation on Evangelization in the Modem World: "Only too often we hear it asserted in various forms that to insist on a truth ....  is to do violence to religious liberty...

298      The freedom of the individual must be respected, without any reservation or condition.  But this does not negate the freedom of anyone who in a leadership capacity takes part in a Cursillo.  No one can justifiably interpret as psychological pressure or restriction of freedom a proclamation of the message that is made with passion and enthusiasm by someone who is striving daily to live the Gospel fully and to be an instrument in the hands of God so that others may come to know Him, and who thus communicates the joy which has given meaning to his or her whole life.

Conclusion

So, to re-state the most important roles of a Table Auxiliary;

  • Be a friend to the candidates, get to know them.
  • Listen to their conversations.  Assess their understanding.
  • Facilitate.
  • Provide clarification or direction where necessary.
  • Encourage.
  • Be an example of Christ’s grace.

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